STRATEGY: Asking For Help
Learn how to raise the effectiveness of your communication
Because LD/ADD people are often thinking of what they are going to
say next while they are speaking, the chances of miscommunication are
high. It is very important to “communicate clearly and concisely
when asking for help” (Weiss 1994).
Think about how annoyed you feel when someone is asking for your help,
but you cannot understand what they want you to help them with. Are
you inclined to help? What are the odds that you have continued to
listen once they have “lost” you?
Here is how you can effectively ask for help:
1. Make sure you are using “I” statements.
2. Do not assume that by asking for help, the other person will be able to do what you are asking of them (Asking means just that; ASKING).
3. Before asking for help, be very specific in what you are asking from the other person.
Here is an example: “I need to go grocery shopping. Can you drive me?"
"It will take about 1 hour".
Source:
Weiss,L. (1994). "Communicate Clearly". The Attention Deficit Disorder in Adults Workbook. Taylor Publishing Company. Dallas, TX. (62-64).